100,000 Dead in the US

I hear that headline on CNN – the best case scenario for the USA – and feel uniquely thankful to be Canadian. Uniquely sad as my mind tries to wrap itself around that number. Those people who are not numbers but people. I am also acutely aware of the fact that my Country is likely just a few steps behind – less dense with infection, yes, but trailing nonetheless.

I am exhausted. My bones hurt and my mind is weary. I have always struggled with sleep, this is nothing new, but I can usually pinpoint exactly why. I like reasons, explanations for that which I cannot control. A pandemic when you are a mother is reason enough, right? I’m not sure. When it is 3:00 a.m. and I am doing dishes, listening to an audiobook, I wonder when sleep will steal me away. If it will skip the night entirely. My dog sleeps; he breathes heavily on his bed near the small kitchen table. My daughter is flat on her back, surrounded by her three favorite stuffed animals, sleeping like the angel that she is. But I remain awake.

A friend who is sweet of soul and gentle in touch, allows me to write him long and rambling letters. Six pages, seven. He even reads them – a tall order I expect – and I mail them although he lives just a few minutes away. It helps with the isolation and it reminds me of my checkered past; the people I should have held close but let go. The things I wish I could fix and the things that I have.

It’s raining today but no matter; I will push my daughters stroller up the small mountains that define my location, and later, when all is still, I will kiss her forehead and tell her, “I will see you soon. I love you” and she will sleep and that is all that matters. Her.

Behind me – the news on – I hear the WHO talking about wearing scarves around our faces when we leave our homes; about a second wave of infection coming in the Fall.

At least, I think, my daughter will be too young to remember everything before this, she will only remember everything that came after. I will keep her safe.

An Ice Rink Becomes a Morgue

Spain turns an ice rink into a morgue. That’s the headline today. One of many. I wonder if the ice rink is kept cold – I wonder if the caskets, dark wood and slim, have names on them. Have you adapted to this yet? Strange how quickly us humans adapt to things – the wonderful things and the frightening things.

It’s my mothers Birthday today. I am the black sheep in the family. I am the first born and the quickest to leave the nest. I make a bit of a mess of my life early on, and then I return, my feathers ruffled, my walls high, but wiser all the same.

Since the age of 18 I have usually been in frustrating, sometimes joyful relationships, that found me celebrating elsewhere, found me wanting. Needing. But things are different now. They need to be.

My daughter, her eyes not yet decided on final color, requires her family. She is pure and she is clean and she is loved by us all. She adores her two cousins – they have beautiful blonde hair like my sister and her husband and they hug her tightly, the older one whispers in her ear, “I woveeee you.

We cannot gather together in their large windowed living room this year – we must maintain our social distance. You know this. I know this. All of us, six feet apart, know this. But we are still together, my family and I, on my Mothers Birthday. We drop off gifts and we connect online. My Father builds her a greenhouse and time moves on.

That may be the most reliable way to mark time these days – allowing it to just move on.